Guy Trouble. D:

[Pyro]

I'm a nice person and I like to be one. I don't like hurting the feelings of others because it only leads to strife on both ends of the deal. However, sometimes, I fear I can be too nice.

Alright so here's the deal: There's three guys. Guy number one was the first to talk to me...Buuut I don't like him at all. He gives me a bad feeling/vibe for all that he's 'polite'. I've tried sending signals to him that I'm not interested but he just blows right past them. I've even said no when he asked if we could hangout. Still he persists. I would think a guy would be able to tell the difference between a girl playing hard to get and well...a girl that just wants him to leave her alone. I used to sit outside the cafeteria and he'd find me, but then a teacher told me I had to either stay in the lobby or go into the cafeteria. I chose cafeteria and to sit with anime club. And after a few days of not seeing me guy one found me outside homeroom and asked where I'd been. When I told him where, he said 'Well could you go back to where you were before.' (he said this all huffy and like how dare I leave without telling him-ish) and I said 'No, because I was told I had to be in the cafeteria.' So he said, 'By who’ so I told him by a teacher. The entire time I was getting this whole 'how dare you' kind of feeling from him. He asked where I was sitting and I sent him in the wrong direction...I feel guilty about it, because I lied, but at the same time is it really my fault that he can't take a hint? Well, I probably should have just come out and said it but that seems sort of...outright mean. Anywho, I'm not sure what I'll do if he finds me again. e.e

Guy number two is like a clone of my old boyfriend. He has his good qualities...and all of his bad ones. He immature, show-offy...And he had the nerve to say I was 'his' right in front of me to his friend who just started talking to me. THAT I really don't like. It sounded like he considered me his property. And for all my old boyfriend's immaturity, he made it very clear that he never saw me as an item to be claimed. So...guy two asked me out. I said yes, idiot that I am, because part of me wants to go out with him because well...he reminds me of my old boyfriend. But I know I'm going to end up breaking up with him for the same reasons.

Guy number three...-drool-. He was polite to me (even when amongst his guy-friends), not too bad looking heishoooot, and I don't feel any bad vibes about him. He's laid-back to guy two's uptight, humorous (something guy two is only gifted in when it comes to twisting my words to sound dirty e.e)...And he's in anime club, so my friends from there know him and can help me on the way to getting him to ask me out.

My dilemma: Guy Two asked me out just yesterday, and I said yes because I didn't want to hurt his feelings and he reminds me of my old boyfriend (what the hell is wrong with me? e.e), but I like Guy three much more and there is a good possibility of me being albe to well…snag him. I’ve already used Guy two’s initial words of ‘Will you go out with me’ to lie..(I made it seem like I thought he had asked me out on a date sometime, not to get into a relationship. I was honest though about me being a little iffy about a relationship because of the fact that he reminded me of my old boyfriend. He said he saw how that could a problem…) Bottom line, I’m not sure how I should proceed...And really if anyone has any advice on how I can avoid getting into these situations that would be great.

[Whiskers]

Okay, I can give you my own personal experience for the guy two thing buuut that's all. ^^; I hope this helps:

Okay, so during the play I was in, I got to know this really nice guy quite well. We hang out every now and again, but never alone, and since he's two years older than me, I never thought he would ask me out or even be interested in me like that. But last friday, while he was walking with me to my bus, he asked me if I would go on a date with him annnd in my panic I said "sure, maybe sometime." Like you Pyro, I... I'm so bad at turning guys down and usually I'm more prepared for those situations as they give me hints that they like me. I was very unprepared for this though so i had no response ready.

Anyway, come Monday, I saw him again as I always do and I just told him straight up what was going-- and that's what you have to do. I just said that I was surprised and I didn't really think, and that now that I had time to think, I didn't really see him like that. He took it surprisingly well and said that he knew what it was like and he was willing to let our friendship grow. x3 I dunno how that guy of yours is, but the best advice is seriously to tell the truth. I've hurt boys before because I've lied to protect their feelings and it doesn't end well. Seriously. Just tell him straight up that you've rethought things and hopefully he'll take it as well as my guy took it. If not-- his problem. =/

Oh and using your parents is a good excuse though, too. I have used "My mother won't let me" many many times, and my mother is absolutely fine with this. It's a good way to get out of an awkward situation.

[Cloud of Diamonds]

I wish I had good advice to offer, but I have absolutely zip experience with romance for the reason that it's easy to get in that situation, which I would hate to the ninth power. O'course, I would have zero problems with hurting a dude's feelings by turning him down, but that's just me. However, I offer my sympathy and emotional support. ?