My Dilemna

[Poizuun]

I don't know how much I've told you guys about my mom, but here's a quick synopsis:
My entire life, I've never been good enough for my mom and it was obvious that she favored my older sister over me. I also have negative association with her and feel like I can't tell her anything about what I do or ask her for anything because I'm constantly afraid that she'll react in anger for finding something wrong in what I have to say.

Veering off a bit to give you a backstory...
An extremely old family friend, who was pretty much my adoptive grandfather died over the summer. He's the one that gave me my truck. Also, he gave both my sister and I 20,000$ that we're going to get back in something, like, 5000$ increments until we're 21 or something like that.

Well, Nickolaus is hellbent on me getting out of this situation and the best solution we have is going away for college down in Muncie to a college that's literally ten minutes from his. My mom nixed that idea right off the bat and wants me going to school up here so I can "prove myself trustworthy as a good student". Nickolaus told this to his mom who suggested to him that I just tell my mom that I'm going down to Muncie, rent an apartment, and get a buttload of student loans so I can pay to go to college, because if I leave, my mom won't pay for me.

I don't have any idea what to do. There's the part of me that's all gung-ho, because when we're old enough, Nickolaus and I will get married and live together in my apartment and finish school together, then live our lives however we want. But the other part is extremely scared of just severing ties like that because I get the feeling that my mom will disown me and yeah, she treats me like crap, but she's still my mom... Or maybe I'm just completely afraid of her wrath.

[Ten]

I don't have a clear idea of how bad your mom is, but from the information I have, I say family over boyfriend.

[Poizuun]

To maybe put it into perspective, today my mom told me that I need to get a job so I can get my own prom dress, when she bought all of my sister's.

[Ten]

"To maybe put it into perspective, today my mom told me that I need to get a job so I can get my own prom dress, when she bought all of my sister's."
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That's harsh. o.o



But does she hit you or scream at you?

[Poizuun]

Thank God she doesn't hit me. And she yells a lot, but if she ever did actually do any of that I'd go live with my dad in a heartbeat.

And the reason I don't live with him now is because it's just not efficient for every day life and I'd be alone a lot more because he always works and so does his girlfriend. Plus Nickolaus doesn't really get along with my dad.

[Ten]

"Plus Nickolaus doesn't really get along with my dad."
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I'm tempted to ask why.

Is everyone here at FoF competing for some "tragic life" award?
Or does everything that's been going on seem normal to y'all?

[Poizuun]

It's a long, graphic story.
Pretty much my dad's extremely opinionated and rather over-bearing/protective of me. And he doesn't appreciate the fact that Nickolaus is not only "with" his youngest daughter, but favorite daughter.

I meant to talk about this earlier, but I was reminded by a your mom joke earlier about this story. The other board was just following an unfortunate series of events.

This is sort of normal...? My life is pretty happy, but my mom is a constant issue.

[Ten]

"This is sort of normal...?"
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I don't mean just this.
People here talk about a lot of bad things that happen in their lives.

[Poizuun]

I don't know about everyone else, but if I have a bad day, I know I can come here and be comforted when I don't have anyone else to stroke my confidence.

[hostlietakeover]

Hmm, My cousin went through this, except it wasn't a boyfriend over family, it was her older sister trying to help her. my cousin was treated like crap by her mom too, but in the end she made the decision to go to a collage close to her sister. When she finally graduated, she went back to her mother and kinda showed her she could live life without depending on her mother and not even care how she was treated. I'm not saying to actually do this, it's your choice, but I though you just might want to hear her story. I hope it will become better for you.